This is almost always in the standard self-help literature. If you want to achieve “it,” you have to really want it. More importantly, with very few exceptions you must be conscious of the fact that you want it and you must be very clear about what it is. When it will happen, what it will look like…you get the picture.
While most self-help literature is about change – changing your life, becoming a different person – it is almost always rooted in the notion that you have to “know yourself” (or know thy self, depending on how far back you go) and be yourself if you want to succeed and be happy in your success. Make sure the “it” that you desire aligns with who you truly are.
As the old saying goes, “If wishes were horses, beggars could ride.” It is one thing to want something; it is another thing entirely to have the will to get it. Motivation plays a starring role in self-help literature, and for good reason: very few of us come equipped with self-sustaining will power. Closely related concepts like being “pro-active” and persistent come into play here.
You can want it and have the will to pursue it, but you still need to cultivate and practice appropriate, consistent habits if you expect to succeed. It is important to remember that “discipline” derives from the Latin “disciplina,” meaning teaching or learning. Desire and drive alone do not add up to discipline. It must be learned.
你有理想，也下定决心追求理想，但你还需要培养于你有益的行为习惯，并持之以恒坚持下去，你才有可能获得成功。一定要记住，英文中“自律” （discipline）一词源于拉丁语词“disciplina”，意为自我教育，既有“教”，也有“学”。自律并非理想和动力的简单相加，必须依靠后 天习得。
Reflection is arguably one of the key habits of discipline, but it also serves to counteract mindless discipline. In short, it is an important enough concept in self-help literature to stand on its own. Achieving your goals requires being conscious and thoughtful about how you are performing along the way. Doing so enables you to appreciate your progress and also to adjust as needed.
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While self-help literature by its nature tends to be very focused on the individual, I can’t think of a single example I have come across that doesn’t also emphasize the importance of our connection to others.
Among other things, connections may help you enhance your own abilities – as in the concept of the “master mind” pioneered by Napoleon Hill (and represented earlier in Ben Franklin’s “junto”). They may help keep you accountable – as is common in 12-step groups. Or, they may help you reconcile yourself with the past – by saying thank you to those who have had a positive impact on your life, for example, as is so common in “happiness” literature.
别的不说，人际关系首先会帮你提高自己的能力，拿破仑·希尔（Napoleon Hill）首倡的“大师”概念中包含了这个观点（本杰明·富兰克林（Ben Franklin）在18世纪创立的费城俱乐部“Junto”中也曾提及）。人际关系也会帮你树立责任感，这在12步戒酒者聚会组织（参见12 Step Groups 网站）中很常见。人际关系还会帮你接受自己的过去，比如，向那些曾经对你人生有积极影响的人表示感谢。论述“幸福”的文献中，这样的例子比比皆是。
I don’t necessarily mean “faith” in a religious sense – thought certainly there is a great deal of self-help literature with a religious orientation. All of the self-help literature I have encountered posits a “higher power,” whether that is a “God” in a religious sense or something more ethereal. I also place concepts like “making your own luck,” “attitude,” and “resilience” in this bucket because each is rooted in the notion that things somehow work out if you simply believe they will.
这里的“信仰”并不一定带有宗教色彩，尽管很多的自我奋斗论说确实具有宗教倾向。我所读过的自我奋斗论著中，无一例外宣扬“至高权力”，要么是宗教意义上 的“上帝”，要么就是某种虚无缥缈的神灵。我认为“信仰”还应该包括“把握自己的命运”、“态度”、“精神复苏”等概念，因为这些概念的实质都是只要有 信，就有可能。